ASK A FAVOR 5.25
Goal: To improve social-relationship skills
1. The student will make polite requests to gain attention and assistance of others.
2. The student will be able to accept refusal of another person to grant favor.
1. Decide if you want or need to ask a favor.
2. Plan what you want to say.
3. Ask a favor in a friendly way.
4. Remember to thank the person. (McGinnis and Goldstein, 1980 p. 128)
Definition: Asking for a favor is asking someone to do something for you.
Rationale: It is important to use this skill correctly so others will be willing to do as you request.
• Discuss that giving a reason along with request may increase chances that person will help. (McGinnis and Goldstein, 1980 p.129)
• Students generate examples of when they have asked for a favor of someone.
Model/Role-play with Feedback
• Play game such as "Mother May I" or "Go Fish".
• Have students break into groups of 2 or 3 to practice independent role play and/or to write scripts showing use of skill steps. Scripts can be passed to different groups or class can vote on most creative, most humorous, most life-like, etc.
• Some students may require additional training in the skill of saying "Thank you". • Student can watch videotape of self and others and provide evaluative feedback.
Role play situations:
• The television is too loud for you to do your homework.
• Your friend is going to a movie and you'd like to go along.
• You would like to borrow something from a friend.
• You would like to join a group and someone must move over for you.
• You drop a box of markers and you ask a classmate to help you pick them up.
• You can't find your homework in the morning.
• You want to borrow your parent's car.
• You want to borrow your sister's jacket.
• You want a friend to introduce you to one of her friends.
• You want to switch work schedules so you can go to a ballgame.
• You have a date and you want to borrow money from a parent or sibling.
• The zipper on your coat is stuck.
• You are behind on your report and want to ask your teacher for time extension.
• You ask a sibling to do the dishes for you so you can go to a movie with a friend.
• It's raining and you need to ask your parent to drive you to a friend's house.
• You ask a sibling or classmate to borrow his/her ball glove.
• You want to use the phone but a sibling is already using it.
Application with Feedback
• Student can be sent to another teacher to request to borrow an item. Teacher provides feedback via checklist.
• Checklist sent home to be completed for 1 week by parents or self-report by student