DEAL WITH FEELING LEFT OUT 3.7
Goal: To improve skills for expressing feelings
1. The student will be able to identify what has happened to cause him/her to feel left out.
2. The student will choose an activity to join in.
1. Decide what has happened to cause you to feel left out.
2. Think about your choices:
a. Ask to join in.
b. Choose someone else to play with.
c. Do an activity you enjoy.
3. Act out your best choice.
Definition: People feel left out of a group or situation when they feel excluded. This may be an actual or perceived exclusion.
Rationale: By identifying the feeling of being left out you are then able to think about the choices you have to resolve that feeling.
• Discuss types of feelings that might result from being left out (i.e. angry, hurt, frustrated, sad). • Emphasize that it is important to deal with being left out by using the skill steps. Continuing to feel angry or hurt is not a good way to take care of yourself or solve problems.
• Discuss how someone feels when they are left out. Have students give examples of past experiences and feelings involved especially anger. Generate a list of responses for each situation.
Model/Role-Play with Feedback
• Students write situations on paper, then draw out of a hat and act out.
Role play situations:
• You get home late and can't go to a movie with your family.
• Waitress forgets to bring your order.
• You are left out of a group game at recess.
• Your brother or sister will not let you play cards with his/her friends.
• You weren't invited to a birthday party.
• Your friends are talking about a party they went to without you.
• Several players groan when you are picked for their team in P.E.
• No one comments on the scenery you made for a school play.
• You are walking down the hall with a friend. Someone you don't know stops and talks to your friend and after a few minutes they go off together, leaving you standing there alone.
• Your boy/girl friend has other plans and turns you down for a dance.
• No one sits at your table at lunch.
Application with Feedback
• Divide the class into groups for an activity, leaving a couple of students out.
• Have an election in class with people being nominated.
• Have a class discussion with the teacher calling only on certain students, ignoring the others with their hands up.
• Student writes a story about a teenager who is left out.
• Have the janitor come in and choose students that volunteered to do work.