IDENTIFY PEER PRESSURE 6.9
Goal: To improve conflict management skills
Objective(s): The student will identify situations in which peers are trying to influence their decisions or behavior.
1. Think about what the others are saying or doing.
2. Think about how you are feeling.
3. Ask yourself "are my friends trying to persuade me to do something?"
4. Decide if you want to be influenced (consider consequences).
5. Act on your decision.
Definition: Peer pressure occurs when your peers are trying to influence your decisions or behavior.
Rationale: Your decisions should be thoughtful choices that consider potential outcomes, long and short term needs and goals, and are rational. While it is OK to listen to input from a variety of sources including peers, it is not OK to feel pressure to conform to the wishes of someone else. Anytime coercion, manipulation, or undue pressure are involved, utilize the skill steps to help make your own good choices.
• Provide situations in which one or more people are pressuring another person. From these situations, have the students arrive at a definition of peer pressure through deductive reasoning.
• Brainstorm a list of situations in which students receive peer pressure.
• Have a discussion in which students suggest ways of saying "no" to various types of peer pressure.
• Have students identify times when peer pressure may be beneficial.
Model/Role-play with Feedback
• Students are asked to watch or find television or magazine advertisements which show children their own age. Students are to identify how peer pressure is shown (words, actions, dress, etc.) and what the purpose of the ad is. Students also identify whether they view the message as beneficial or detrimental.
• Students are asked to keep track of any incident in which they experience any form of peer pressure over an assigned interval (2 days for example). Students give self report to class in small groups.
Role play situations:
• Your friend wants you to try his alcoholic beverage.
• Your friends want to egg someone's house and car.
• Your friend wants you to steal a magazine.
• Your friend wants you to sneak out and meet him after curfew.
• Your brother wants you to take money from your mother's wallet to order a pizza.
• Your friend asks you to skip school and ride in his new car.
• A friend wants you to take someone's lunch money for him.
• Your neighbor overpays you for a lawn job and forgets to ask for the extra back; your friends want you to keep it.
• Your friends try to talk you into using your house for a party when your parents are out of town.
• A group of kids want you to come to a party with no adult supervision which is against your family rules.
Application with Feedback
• Half of the class are assigned to be "observers" and the other half, "skill users". On the first day, if an observer sees a skill user experiencing a form of peer pressure, he verifies it with the student. Roles are reversed the following day.