RESPECT OTHERS' RIGHTS AND PROPERTY 6.5
Goal: To improve conflict management skills
1. The student will be able to identify others' rights and property.
2. The student will demonstrate respect for others' rights and property.
1. Say to yourself: "This doesn't belong to me" or "I don't have the right to ___________"
2. Think of your choices:
a) Ask to borrow item
b) Earn money to buy it
c) Ask to trade
d) Do something else you like to do
e) Ask yourself how the other person might feel
3. Act on your choice
4. Reward yourself
Definition: Respecting others' rights and property means treating other people and their property the way you want to be treated. It includes a respect for how the other person feels. It means that you will not do something that would make the other person feel upset, bothered, or angry.
Rationale: It is important to use this skill to avoid negative consequences from authority figures (home, school, and community). If you are disrespectful to others, they will see you in a negative way, and treat you the same way you've treated them.
• Use skill when you see an item of someone's that you'd like to have or use (home, school, community).
• Discuss how students want to be treated.
• Discuss what respect means to them and how they feel when they are not respected.
• Ask students to share experiences and how they felt when they were or were not respected.
• Ask students what the consequences are of not respecting other's rights/property. Give examples of consequences at home, school, and in the community.
Set the Stage:
• Have students identify a favorite possession and ask students how they would feel if it was stolen or borrowed without permission and damaged by someone else.
Model/Role-play with Feedback
• Call local police and see if they have a videotape on shoplifting.
• Bring in a movie or taped TV show that shows people disrespecting others.
• Have students write down or brainstorm experiences when they have not been treated with respect and use for role-play.
• Students report on a time when they respected other's rights/property in the last day, week, month or year.
• Leave money in the classroom and designate a student or other adult to watch it.
• Teacher shows student how to self-monitor behavior.
• Take students on community trip to a store with a security device. Discuss why this type of monitoring has to become necessary.
• Your substitute teacher comes in; you must demonstrate respectful behavior.
• Your teacher/mother leaves her purse on the desk/table.
• You return a cassette tape that you borrowed from a friend.
• You borrow your siblings clothes and a friend asks to wear it.
• You're at a crowded supermarket and need to pass others to catch up with your class or family.
• You borrow a pencil/pen from a teacher or classmate.
• You ask a friend to trade lunches with you and he/she says "no".
• You see a tape you really want lying on the floor.
• A friend left his new catchers mitt outside.
• You find $2.00 on a lunch table as a child is leaving.
Application with Feedback
• Assign each student another teacher's class in which they must practice respecting others. Have teacher provide feedback.
• Have parents report on child's ability to respect rights/property over a one-week period.
• Parents are asked to monitor students utilizing use of this skill at home.
• Student can be given permission to bring item from home for use in social situation, such as a game, toy, tape, etc. Teacher can monitor students' skill use or student can be assigned to be a peer evaluator via checklist.
• Teacher can pre-arrange situation where student asks another teacher to borrow supplies, (i.e. balls and bats from gym teacher).
• Student can identify use of skill (or lack of same) in pre-recorded videotapes.