SHOW AFFECTION 3.9
Goal: To improve skills for expressing feelings
Objective(s): The student will be able to show affection appropriately.
1. Decide if you have good feelings about the other person.
2. Decide if you think the other person would like to know you feel this way.
3. Decide what you will say.
4. Choose a good time and place.
5. Tell the person in a friendly way.
Definition: To show affection is to express positive feelings towards other people.
Rationale: Discuss that it is more common to give negative feedback to people. When we have good feelings about people, it is appropriate to share them. This will make the relationship closer and stronger. All people need affection.
• Students brainstorm a list of people they might express their affection to (close friend, parent, sibling, boy/girl friend). Discuss that affection need not be connected with romance or only boy/girl relationships.
• This is a difficult skill for many adults and therefore it may have been infrequently or poorly modeled. Therefore it is important that the teacher provides this on an ongoing basis.
Model/Role-play with Feedback
• Teacher models showing affection and process steps.
• Brainstorm actions that people can use to express affection: saying nice things, giving a card a gift, a hug.
• Cut out magazine pictures that show people expressing affection.
• Students write a love letter to someone they want to express affection to.
Role play situations:
• You express positive feelings toward guidance counselor after unburdening personal problem.
• You express friendly feelings toward a new friend.
• Your best friend is moving.
• Tell or show your father that you know how much he means to you.
• You thank a teacher for something he/she has done.
• You tell your parents that you love them.
• You tell friends that you like them and want to continue being friends.
• You give a small gift to a parent.
Application with Feedback
• Students write messages to parents or other significant people in their lives.
• Utilize print shop or other card maker as a non-threatening way to communicate affection.
• Students do something nice for someone at school or home as a way of communicating affection and report on the experience.
• Field trip: Visit a nursing home or animal protection society.
• Students can plan a school or community service project.
• Send cards to people that are sick.
• Help a neighbor in need.