TEASE APPROPRIATELY 6.7
Goal: To improve conflict management skills
1. The student will be able to differentiate between friendly and mean teasing.
2. The student will be able to appropriately tease another.
1. Think about what you want to say.
2. Understand your own motivation (kind vs. hurtful).
3. Anticipate their reaction (think about their past reactions).
4. Do it.
5. Evaluate the other person's reactions
6. Decide if you will continue or stop.
Definition: "Friendly" teasing is an affectionate way for someone to give you attention but "mean" teasing is meant to hurt your feelings.
Rationale: Teasing appropriately can help show you have a sense of humor and can make people like you. It can be a way to let people know you like them.
• Discuss that usually friendly teasing is done with people you already know.
• Discuss that if the person responds by looking upset, you should probably stop teasing, apologize, and explain motive.
• Discuss times teasing would not be appropriate (test taking, when someone is already upset, a total stranger, etc.)
• Students sit in a small group and discuss who they like to tease and who they let tease them.
• Students discuss how they feel when they're teased.
• Make a list of things you should not tease about.
• Students discuss why they tease certain people.
Model/Role-play with Feedback
• Teacher may deem this skill inappropriate for certain students.
• Students watch sit-com and discuss the kind of teasing it depicts. (p. 118)
• Video tape students during role plays showing "friendly" teasing.
• Possible situations for "friendly" teasing:
• Girlfriend or boyfriend
• New job
• School recognition (award, good grades, office helper)
• Participation in sports or a club
• Class or school election
• Tardiness or forgetfulness
Application with Feedback
• Students keep individual logs in daily journal. Did I tease anyone today? About what? Was it "friendly" or "mean" teasing? What did they do in response?
• Teacher makes assignment for each student to tease a friend and family member in a friendly manner. Report back to class.